In our culture and world, women are expected to be/look sexy every minute of every day and night. The media and many industries promote this for many reasons with the largest being to make money. When you have to be sexy every minute of your life, you have to buy all of the things to make that happen, whether it’s fashion, beauty products, cars, etc.

If you’re not sexy, what good are you? Everywhere you go you’re being told if you’re not sexy, you’re not valuable or worthy or current. Isn’t that too much pressure on an already stressful life of work, kids, mate, volunteering (do I need to add more?)…..

As a fashion industry insider, I’m here to tell you that you are released from the pressure this “necessity” creates. Listen to me carefully: you’re just as valuable, worthy and desirable when you’re being your self.

Ladies, the secret to true, not artificial sexiness, is just being your true, authentic self. This is what makes you attractive to other people-kindness, optimism and joy. The ultimate in sexiness. Nothing else needs to be added.

Am I saying you can’t use clothes, makeup or other things to make you feel prettier? Of course not! Considering what I do, that wouldn’t be smart. I am saying though, that true sexiness comes from the inside, and ultimately reveals itself on the outside.

Men (if you’re a real man, you will be reading this): you need to reinforce this to the women in your life. Tell them you love them for them; not for how “sexy” they are.

You’re released from artificial means. Go forth, conquer and be the best, individual, authentic human being you can be. Now that’s sexy!